"You matter. And guess what? You don't need a label to prove it."
Labels, The Matter
Under The Tri (Tree) Sessions
Hullo! And welcome back to another Under The Tri Sessions! So recently, I've watched a movie entitled: The Duff.
It's about a girl who-wait, maybe I shouldn't spoil it for those who haven't watched it.
Maybe you've heard of the movie, perhaps even watched it, but my question to all those who have watched it is, were you inspired by it? Cause' to me, the movie has been an inspiration to me, so I thought: Why not put my thoughts about the movie online?
This is no ordinary review like the previous ones LouBriTri did on a music video, today's post is something different from that; so shall we jump into it?(That was rhetorical, by the way.)
At first, when I finished watching the movie, I felt warm and fuzzy inside, cause' what can I say? I'm a romantic. Later on though, when the hype of fangirling over the male lead died down, the message of the movie began sinking in.
The message isn't abstracted at all, but when your head is clouded with dreamy thoughts of the actors, you're not exactly thinking. Anyone can relate?
Before I get sidetracked, let me introduce the topic for today's Under The Tri Sessions: Labels, The Matter. Allow me to break it down (wow, I sound like a rapper).
What are labels?
Well, according to the dictionary, labels are a classifying phrase applied to a person or thing.
What is matter?
The word itself has many meanings, but the meaning I'm referring to is neither the substance nor the affair. The matter(s) that I'm looking at is problem and the verb meaning being: having significance.
And labels ARE the problem. So many people become insecure and discouraged by them.
Fat. Ugly. The word DUFF has both. DUFF stands for:
D esignated
U gly
F at
F riend
This label, according to the movie, isn't necessarily given out to someone who is fat or ugly. The label itself can have different meanings, depending on the person, but in the end, the same conclusion is drawn. A DUFF is the one person in a group that is less, than the rest of his/her's other friends.
He/She could be the least 'smart' one, he/she could be the least 'athletic' one, he/she could be the least 'cool' one. It's different for everyone, but the one word that stays the same is less.
To me, I can relate to being a DUFF. In LouBriTri, I feel like I'm the odd one out sometimes. Maybe Lou and Bri feel the same way-like they're the DUFF-but if you knew us personally, you would obviously see the stark contrasts between mine and their personalities and talents.
Lou and Bri are both talented artists, for one. They both like k-pop, they have similar views about life. And then you have me. I can't draw a good piece of art without getting impatient or frustrated. I absolutely can't seem to find interest in k-pop, and my view about life is definitely way different. Also, Louisa and Bridget are super smart. They're ahead of me in a lotta stuff, no matter what they claim, and sometimes, I'll admit, I get jealous. Not just about grades, but socially, Lou has a technique of avoiding awkwardness-though she doesn't seem to realise it-and Bri is just very approachable and able to get along with almost anybody.
Is being envious a bad thing? Or is it natural?
For all I know, they could be reading this post as I'm writing it. I'm sorry to you guys, in advance.
But I guess that's just me beating myself down. I'm a DUFF, but so is everyone. We're all born imperfect, and there are some things that we're good at and that we suck at. Just accept it. NOBODY'S PERFECT, and Hannah Montana couldn't have said it better. Don't beat yourself up for it though. Labels are meant to make you insecure, but that's only if you let it. The world is a labelling machine, full of haters. But Tay-tay couldn't have said it better.
THE HATERS ARE GONNA HATE(hate, hate, hate, hate). Deal with it, they're just jealous. (I've really gotta stop with eh song references...)
At the end, I realised that it was only for the best that I was the odd one out. Why? It's because having too many similarities can be a bit troublesome. Every group needs someone too balance one another out. That's me, I suppose. DUFF or not, there's a good reason why you exist in the group.
Below is another song that I'd love to share with you. I did a cover of the song (for Lou's bday), but unfortunately the video exceeded the time limit for blogger videos. So instead, I present the original music video of Who Says by Selena Gomez.
REMEMBER: Listen to the lyrics.
DISCLAIMER: I DON'T OWN ANYTHING. ALL CREDIT GOES TO SELENA GOMEZ AND HER RECORD COMPANY.
Here is the link to THE DUFF movie, it's free and you don't have to download it: https://xmovies8.org/watch?v=The_DUFF_2015#video=7KkoxFI62Rr8uTeeZtJDOviuHYeODeFYaJ4GfhZhDaQ
Also, I'd like to recommend a book for you guys to read, it is my absolute favourite and I thought the story would be appropriate for this post: Wonder, by RJ Palacio
That's it for now guys, I'll be back!
xxTri :)
"YOU MATTER. DON'T LET LABELS TELL YOU OTHERWISE."
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